Being positive…A choice!

25 06 2013

A long time ago my mom shared something very special with me. I was probably seven or eight years old at the time, and I rememember understanding for the first time that my mother had lost her mother when she was just a baby.  I remember asking her how she had grown up without a mother? How did she cope? Who made sure that she was really looked after? Who did all the ‘mom’ things… like ponytails, daily snacks, and cuddling her when life got challenging? I remember her words so clearly.  She said, “I had a wonderful loving father, and a positive attitude”. My mother learnt about a positive outlook before she could even talk. She always taught me that it’s not what happens to you in life but how you respond it!
As the years have gone by, life happens. You lose people whom you’ve loved, you move places and sometimes in my case, countries. You start again, you make friends, you lose friends, friendships change, you know hard times and live through them. You sometimes wish your kids would stay small or your goals would be more attainable.
People often say to me, You’re soooo positive all the time. I laugh at that one, because as my closest of closest people will tell you, I’m REALLY NOT! I’m often needy, grumpy and tired. But when I commit to how I really feel (needy, grumpy, tired) those words my mother taught me so long ago come flooding back. Don’t be positive because other people want you to be cheerful, or because it looks better, but be positive because that’s the way you get through the hard times. If you tell yourself enough times that you are grateful for this perfectly imperfect life we all live, you actually start to believe it!! When you start to believe it, and embrace your vulnerability and your strength, that’s when it all makes sense!
“Walk with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the planners, the doers, the successful people with their heads in the clouds and their feet on the ground. Let their spirit ignite a fire within you to leave this world better than when you found it.” Wilfred A. Peterson